There are conflicting reports about this famous young couple’s breakup.
Some say there was no drama.
Some say there was lots of drama.
Want to know what really happened?
She loved him and he loved her… just not as much.
After they were dating for six or seven months, she asked where the relationship was going.
Were they moving towards a serious commitment?
Not nagging. Just asking.
He assured her that he loved her.
Then he mentioned the P word.
He told her that if he was going to propose that he didn’t want to spoil the surprise.
He told her that she just needed to relax and let it happen.
So he didn’t actually say that he was definitely planning to propose, but he definitely did lead her to believe that it was going to happen.
At first, she was giddy at the prospect.
It could be right around the corner.
If they were going on a date, or going away for the weekend, she believed that it might happen then.
Maybe over the holidays or on their one-year anniversary or at the thirteen month mark.
What she didn’t know was that he actually had no intention of proposing.
In fact, those conversations about commitment seemed to have spooked him.
Instead of spending more time with her, and behaving more committed and loving, he pulled away and started engaging in some activities that defy the very definition of committed.
When she found out, she was shocked.
She had been loyal to him.
She had never embarrassed him.
He not only showed disloyalty… he embarrassed her.
Those are both HUGE no nos to her.
While they didn’t break up, the relationship went from happy and hopeful to distrustful and disconnected.
They started fighting a lot.
This went on for several months.
Then, during a recent fight, he finally admitted something.
He finally admitted that he actually had not been planning to propose… but that if they just kept dating for another year or two, it might eventually happen.
That was it.
The relationship fell apart after that.
There were tears from both sides.
While it would be much more interesting to tell you some dramatic story about how she caught him in bed with her her brother and her best friend and clocked him upside the head with a Grammy Award… nothing that dramatic happened.
It really was just two people – one of whom wasn’t quite as honest and loyal and committed and non-embarrassing as he could have been – breaking up over the course of a few months.