I get that ultimately you make your own decisions about what enters your body and which substances you take.
However, I also feel that if someone is battling to stay clean but they are being encouraged by their significant other to not be a party pooper and they should join in or else, than that changes the dynamic. If they are using a power they know they have over the other person, I think that changes things.
So, when that person does say no and doesn’t go to a party, and tries to do the right thing, what are they supposed to think when they get cheated on at the party they didn’t attend.
As I have been warning you, it could very well happen again.